You always get told communication is the key that makes any relationship work. But you also have to look at the other factors that do to. Trust, faith, belief, intimacy, not just touch but with words and most of all effort.
Trust is huge because if your not communicating about why your having trust issues you can’t get over the the problem or tackle it for that matter. Especially if one has cheated or one has betrayed. To get that trust back, you have to be willing to talk about about it. That’s the toughest thing to do.
Faith is hard. Having faith that the choice your making is right. Beyond all doubts and reasonings that you have faith that the choice is in fact right for you . And when your in love it’s the the best for both of you. Because when you do love you don’t think about you, you think about them, that other person. You have faith. With out faith, you have no hope.
Belief, belief that the fight your fighting is worth it. Through tears, pain, and all the hurt and at the end of the tunnel it was all worth the struggles. Every relationship has struggle, big, little, massive, trauma is trauma is trauma. But you have to believe that your doing the right thing for yourself and the other person. You can not be clone toxic to each other through your struggling times. You have to believe it’s a just a moment and it will get better, because always thinking negative about it will make you become negative about the entire relationship.
Intimacy, is huge. Yes sex is big in some relationships but this isn’t just what they are based upon. And if tradition was still hip, and the road everyone traveled you would know wait until marriage and then intimacy would have more value. As it should. Never forget how we make each other feel, when we felt at the beginning. Compliments, the blushing, the butterflies, the smiling from ear to ear when we knew the cell going off was in fact her/him or that text was that person. That’s the intimacy I’m talking about. Don’t let that fade. The touch down then leg for no reason, the brush behind the ear, the small kiss on the cheek just because, out of the blue, or that cute text that said good morning. This small intimate things are the biggest parts of what dies, that should be kept alive. That makes a person feel important, valued, and most of loved. And those small chats about when we were kids, or off the wall conversations that anybody else heard would think we were completely crazy, that only we understood, and laugh about. Never loose those moments, in the car to the store, or walking to the mailbox, or quick text of some random silly text. That intimacy you can’t get anywhere else.
Lastly effort. Never give up, always make an effort. When it seems one isn’t trying or caring, it really hurts both of you. Because whether you know or not two people being around each other for few years can actually feel that and not even know it. And it effects everyone around you. It’s the aura coming of you, and no effort means you just give up. The littlest effort can be taking trash out or saying I don’t feel good today, because we all get some kind of depression, naturally, and just have a down day, is all the effort needed. Everyone has their own way of showing how they care, it can just being there with someone, some show it my doing things for someone, like cooking, shopping, and others like to do things with people. It’s just how we all are different.
We all have different ways of showing love communicating and talking about our worries and discussing things that makes us happy and not so happy is what makes it all come together. And these other little factors help too.
Just food for thought really❤️❤️